Help! I'm three months in and I'm feeling blue...
We talked about this kind of blue feeling last year, but if you moved abroad in August/September, you might be noticing homesickness* creep up on you now, in November. Like I mentioned last year, it doesn’t really seem to matter where I am or how much fun I am having, after I manage to get my bearings in a new city, I tend to miss what I have left behind. For me this tends to be around month three into a new adventure, which is why today I wanted to share with you this video I made about what I call “the three month feeling.”
*I call it being homesick because it is the closest word I can find in English to this feeling… however, I am not truly convinced it is the right description.
So, What are Some Things I do to help me with the Three Month Feeling?
I will be embarking on a new journey soon that will find me in another city (and a country I’ve never even been to before) and knowing me, I will plan to set aside some time myself to help me through when I am feeling low. Some of my favorite things to do, just for me are:
Make a cup of tea and read a book: It might sound super cliché, but I am that person who loves to sit down with a good book and just devour it, only getting up to refill my cup of tea or for a cookie. I am honestly not a TV series or movie person, so this is my way of emerging myself into another world and letting my problems disappear while I am visiting that world.
Pro-tip: figuring out how you escape (no, it doesn’t solve your problems, but it can help you find perspective) is essential if you need a little break from your day to day life, especially if you are feeling down.
Go for a walk: I am also that person that needs to move if I want to be mentally sane and walking is one of the best ways to get in a little bit of unplanned exercise—especially since I am not a gym person. I personally like to walk around the city taking everything in (even without a specific destination) or listen to podcasts and getting my daily dose of someone else’s perspective. ’
Make myself a special meal: Because food is so important to my family culture, by cooking a good meal I am able to care for myself (beyond pure nutrition, food also represents group time and loving your family/friends for me). It doesn’t necessarily have to be a healthy meal, but something that warms me up physically and emotionally usually makes every situation seem more bearable.
Go out for for a meal, alone: If I don’t want to cook (it is rare, but it does happen), I will treat myself to a meal out. And, actually, there is something I really like about going out by myself, usually with a book to read or a notebook to jot down the ideas flowing through my head. I really like spending time alone—even when I’m missing home—and this is another way for me give this relationship with myself importance.
Skype with friends: There are people that I really care about (and love Skyping with) in a bunch of different time zones, making it harder to keep in touch or catch up with. However, when I am feeling a little blue, I do try to make more of an effort to virtually hang out with these special people—check out this post for more tips about communicating with people who live in different places.
Create a connection/share: Of course, there are moments when I want to be with people, even if they are a far cry from the friends I have had for years. When I feel the desire to be social, I either call up (or whatsapp, if we are being honest) people I know or go looking for other people who are looking for friends in the city (intercambios are great for this).
Have a good cry: While it is not something that I like to do in front of other people, having a good cry is a really (in my experience) productive way to let out a bunch of pent-up energy. There are several books and movies that I know will have me crying before sad things even start to happen, and these are my go-tos when I have the need to cry building up inside of me.
Have you experienced this three month feeling? What do you do to combat it?